How to unleash our inner strenghs? – Grace Daly
David Laroche: Hello Achievers! Today we are with a new guest here. She is awesome because she is a woman and she is a keynote speaker and best-selling author. She is Grace Daly. Hello Grace!
Grace Daly: Thank you David. I’m so glad with you here. I’m really excited.
David Laroche: How are you?
Grace Daly: I’m doing great, actually wonderful, very excited to be meeting here with you.
David Laroche: Me too. I’m very glad with this interview. I’m sure the interview will be awesome.
Grace Daly: Oh, well thank you!
David Laroche: My first question I would like to ask you is about the strengths, because you talk about inner strengths. How to unleash your inner strengths?
Grace Daly: I believe we all are born with an incredible well of strength, a deep well of strength within us. And many times many folks won't even realize the strength they have. They don’t even exercise it, until it comes to a point where they are up against some life event, some major challenge or obstacle, then it comes out.
The way you unleash it is one of the things I teach my students and clients is you think of a moment and most of the time is a moment where you’ve had the most adversity, the most challenge. You think of that moment and you think of all the people around you and everything around you that supported you and helped you get through that moment, and that is your well of strength, that is within you and that is always within you. It will never ever leave.
So if you can center yourself, if we all learn to kind of quiet all the white noise around us and center ourselves, we can actually always return to our well of strength.
David Laroche: When you have a challenge that is problem it’s the opportunity to see inside yourself, to find your strengths, and to unleash it. That’s right?
Grace Daly: Yes, absolutely. And I’m a firm believer God does not give us what we cannot handle. I mean, everything is opportunity. The Chinese character “crisis” also stands for “opportunity” as well. So everything is opportunity.
David Laroche: Do we have to provoke challenges to unleash your strengths?
Grace Daly: Oh, no! Challenges just come up by themselves. Don’t provoke challenges! But don’t be afraid of them either. When a challenge come–whether it’s in a work environment, yes, whether it’s in a personal environment, you know, with your family, yes, when it’s raining and you’re having a bad day like me or whatever it is—but what happens is that when challenges come up is how you embrace it. It’s really how you embrace it and welcome it and to see it through.
But many people they freeze up. They’re like a deer in headlights and they don’t know how to embrace it. Or they come up acting like, “Oh, why me? Why me?” No, embrace it, embrace it and get through it and when you get through you’re going to be stronger and better. And then you know what? You’ll be ready for the next challenge.
David Laroche: Can we say that it’s a fact that our strengths are unleashed in proportion of the number and quality of challenges we met?
Grace Daly: Yes, absolutely. I believe too what happens is that the more challenges you have, the more opportunities you see, the more you’ve struggled through your challenges and obstacles, the stronger you become.
Life is all about relationships and challenges and obstacles and how we deal with them. So once we learn to embrace that, it’s not about avoiding challenge or avoiding obstacles, it’s getting through them and seeing yourself through them and understanding and knowing and having that strong faith that you can get through it.
David Laroche: So you think that when you have a challenge, it is a challenge you can struggle, you can overcome? You have unleashed challenges you can overcome, right?
Grace Daly: Yes.
David Laroche: So if you are improving yourself you will attract more difficult challenges, that’s right?
Grace Daly: Yes. And difficulty is all matter of opinion.
David Laroche: Yes, perception.
Grace Daly: Yes, perception. Absolutely. And so you say, “Bring it!”
David Laroche: Thank you very much. Do you have keys to unleash inner strengths? When it’s to overcome challenges, can we do one of those things to do it?
Grace Daly: Well, definitely you have to find your own center, I call it “The center of peace”, you have to find that within.
David Laroche: How we can do that?
Grace Daly: What it is, is that you remember or you go back to the most difficult time you ever had—whether is financially, whether it was a relationship, whether it was a work environment, whatever it is—you go back and if you got through that, you’ll get through future ones too.
So it’s just kind of reassessing where you’ve come from and then that’s most kind of like a gentle reminder that, “You know what? You’re pretty badass and you’re going to get through this because you’ve already been through a lot already.”
Many times people I’ve coached, I’ve worked through the first step program and many times people I coach they feel that they may have come from such difficult situations, challenge backgrounds that they feel that it’s beyond them to try to overcome that. But I say because you come from such a challenged background, that’s just more testament to you to get because you’re still standing, you’re still here. I believe that if you’re not dead yet and you’re still here, you have a purpose and you have a message to get up. Everyone does.
So I encourage a lot of kind of seeing where you’ve come from and understanding the challenges that you’ve already accomplished, because that will give you strength and motivation to push through these future challenges.
David Laroche: Yes. It’s really amazing and interesting because a lot of people when they had a difficult past, they try to forget it, they try to forget the past. But you are saying the inverse. You don’t have to forget but see how was your past and how you are now, that’s right?
Grace Daly: Yes. Use your past –good, bad or different—use your past to strengthen you and to fortify your own self-belief. That’s what it is.
David Laroche: So your past is perfect to help you to unleash your strengths.
Grace Daly: Absolutely, yes.
David Laroche: Thank you very much.
I have another question about your business. How do you operate your business? How do you do to grow it?
Grace Daly: Well, as a coach and a writer and also as a keynote speaker, I operate from my values, my core values. I live everyday of my business, which is operate of compassion and abundance. When you operate out of compassion and empathy, you already know what the needs are, you’re feeling the needs of your client or potential client, or even those people you want to help. So that compassion, that empathy is an instant connection, and then also too, with abundance…
I’m not a hard sales type of person, I don’t believe it—and many people operate very differently and that’s OK, that works for their business model—but with my business model, I operate from a source of abundance. So I rarely go out on sales calls, I don’t hard sale, and again, it’s a very different philosophy and approach than some people have with their business—whether it’s an internet business, whether it is a brick and mortar business, whatever it may be.
I like to operate out of abundance because I feel that operating out of abundance you attract more abundance. It’s not like, “Oh, I have to make that sale. Oh, I have to get that client.” No, I want to get the right client. I want to get the right connection. And if it wasn’t meant to be, then it wasn’t meant to be a connection with that potential client. Does that make sense?
David Laroche: You’re not trying to convince some people, to convince you, to convince a customer or client. You are saying that if it’s the right customer, is the right client, the right CEO, it will work because it’s the right connection, right?
Grace Daly: Yes, correct. And I know again, you know, coming from the school of business or coming from sales, that may be very counter to what their beliefs may be, but I’ve been very fortunate that I’ve never made a sales call per se. I’m attracting the right people, the right clients, the right people with interests because right there you know it’s a good match because the interest is there.
And this has worked with everyone. When you build your business to a point where people know what you’re about, and you’re more about helping, you’re not about selling, you’re more about serving, you’re not about closing a deal, then people already know where you’re operating from, which is abundance.
David Laroche: It’s very interesting. So I imagine that maybe some people who are listening to that say, “Oh, it’s great! But I have some fears. Sometimes I have the fear to have a lack of money. If I don’t sell how can I really do it?” She’s—I forget the name in English…
Grace Daly: People may be like, “Oh, well, Grace Daly, she’s an entrepreneur. She’s got her website, she’s got her businesses all set up. It’s easy for her to say that.”
David Laroche: Yes. “It’s easy for Grace. She has abundance, she feels abundance today but currently I am not and I’m lost and I have to sell, I have to sell because I will not have any money, I have to eat…”
Grace Daly: OK. Do you really have to sell? And I want to ask those people, “Do you really have to sell or do you really want to serve?” That in itself is a huge perception swap, right? I’ve been there before, you know? I’ve only been entrepreneur for the last six years. Before that, I worked for major, large corporations where I did retail development. I used to build a lot of source. So I know how it is, David, to have that security of the weekly paycheck, the cushion and the fund of vacation times, sick days, personal times. As an entrepreneur you’re just always working, you’re always doing what you’re doing, but it doesn’t feel like work because you love it, right?
So I understand, and I come from that place where probably about 5-6 years ago I made the swap from leaving my very safe job and environment to go entrepreneurial. So I totally understand where that fear may come from, because at one point I felt early on too. But I say this, if you take anything away from this discussion into your audience, is that I believe firmly and wholly in providence, where there’s a divine guidance and force to come to your aid to help you whatever your decision is. That’s the caveat, whatever your decision is.
So if you’re going to be living fair and be kind of paralyzed and not want to progress and not want to take a calculated risk—calculated risk because we all have responsibilities, we have to be physically responsible to our families and other support circles—but you have to have, and it goes back to your well of strength, you have to have the fortitude and seek within to know that decisions you make are right for you or right for your business and will help you flourish, but a lot of people are afraid to take that action.
So with providence, whatever direction you choose, providence comes in to support you. Like what you’re doing now, David, this wonderful tour you’re doing in America. It’s scary. You don’t know what was going to happen. You don’t know, well, “Who’s this David person? Why should I talk to him?” But you’re here! You’re here in this country and you’re doing this five, six-city tour and you’re meeting some incredible people. So you took that chance and providence comes in and they connected you to me and me to Julie, you know what I mean? It’s that divine guidance coming into really support you in whatever your decision is.
David Laroche: It’s very interesting about providence because I have two perceptions with providence. One it’s I believe that something bigger than us helped us to reach our goals and I believe that, but what can you say about the fact, “So if there’s a providence I have to do this? I can't do nothing.”
Grace Daly: OK.
David Laroche: Someone can say they do that, “So if there is providence I can wait in my home.”
Grace Daly: Well, then you’re waiting and then providence will support that. If you choose to wait… You know, and that’s OK too. When you’re waiting you’re not ready. You have instilled that fortitude, that self belief that you’re not ready and that’s OK.
So what happens is that if you choose to wait, providence will support you and you will be quiet and you will wait and there will be no other routes or people coming into your life or places you’ll go where incidents and things come into your life… whatever it is that you decide, whether it is to wait or whether it’s to move on and believe in yourself and take that calculated risk, either way providence comes in and supports that.
David Laroche: So you decide the life you want, but providence is here to help you, to support you?
Grace Daly: Yes. And the key is, like you said too, you decide on the life you want, but also keep your eyes wide open because all these great things that are coming. And the typical person, especially if they have no stillness within, they’re not going to see all these great opportunities come around because providence is going to send people your way, events, people like you, like Julie, events, this meeting and us discussing this. Most people, if they don’t have their eyes open, they’ll just miss it like that and they’d be like, “Oh, well, I decided I wanted to do this and nothing happened.” No! It’s happening before your eyes, so make sure you keep your eyes wide open and take action. Take action, that’s very important.
David Laroche: Do you have a process to identify opportunities?
Grace Daly: Yes. There’s always a process. In my mind, what I do is I look at where it’s coming from. I look at opportunities. I look at if it’s serving a greater good or is it very self serving. That’s what I look at that opportunity. I kind of in my mind go through these questions. And I also get it as, “Is this a once in a lifetime chance that if I don’t do, it’ll never come around again?” And then I also say to myself, or the third one would be like, “Well, what do I have to lose?” Give it a try, give it a whirl.
A lot of people will be inactive, they won't take action. And I think that’s what holds a lot of people back, just the lack of action. Things will come up to them but then they won't take action on it, they won't plan to meet with that person or they won't follow up on events or opportunities.
David Laroche: Some people have some difficulties to take actions. How can you help them? What advice could you give them to help them to take action?
Grace Daly: My only advice is this: if you don’t take action nothing will happen. That’s it!
David Laroche: Just have that in mind.
Grace Daly: Yes, nothing is going to happen.
David Laroche: Your life will be the same.
Grace Daly: Yes, exactly. Whether it is 5 years, 10 years, 20 years, nothing will happen. And there are people who are just not comfortable in taking action and growth and opportunity—any significant growth always happen when there’s change or reaching out from your comfort zone.
David Laroche: So you change your focus not only on the present—it’s difficult to do that—but if you focus on the long term your life will be the same if you don’t change anything, that’s right?
Grace Daly: That’s right.
David Laroche: And their uncomfort will be in the future.
Grace Daly: Yes. And also, too, like—I forgot who wrote the quote—but there’s a wonderful quote and it talks about how like at the end of his life he wants to be totally worn out, his body worn out, exhausted and just say, “Wow! What an incredible ride that was!”
So when you’re down to your last day on this Earth, what do you want to say? Are you going to be full of regrets and like, “I should’ve, I could’ve, I would’ve… I should’ve asked that person out on a date and I could’ve had a relationship with that person? I should’ve taken that job. I should’ve asked for that promotion or for that raise. I should’ve worked out my issues with my family members,” or whatever it may be, people live with regret all the time.
So don’t be one of those people where at the last day on Earth instead of thinking back like, “Wow! What a crazy, fun adventure ride that was,” all of a sudden there are all these lists of regrets. I’d rather have a list of like, “I went skydiving. I wrote a couple of books. I met some incredible people and I traveled to some wonderful places.”
So if you really focus on what you want…
David Laroche: It is life.
Grace Daly: Yes.
David Laroche: Thank you very much.
Do you had some struggles in your life and are you proud of about it? Can you share me an experience or struggle and how you overcame it?
Grace Daly: Yes. You know what? Yes, I’ve had a fair amount of struggles in life like anyone has because struggle helps us grow. I think being a first generation born in the US here, coming from a large family—I am the fifth youngest of six kids firstborn here in New York, native New Yorker, and all my brothers and sisters were born in Hong Kong. I think growing up in a traditional, old-fashioned family, Asian family—not so much from my parents. My mom and dad are wonderful. They’ve always been very supportive and encouraging, especially in our careers and especially in our jobs, but I think the traditional way of thinking in the Asian society, like even in China now, I felt that I always had to prove self-worth as a woman, as an Asian woman coming from that stigma.
So what happens is, it’s funny, because I think I overcome it probably with a vengeance, because when I look at my career track and what I’ve done in retail development, I’ve built hundreds of stores, hundreds of hundreds of stores around the country from major national retail chains, and I’ve done it in a predominantly male-oriented industry. So I think because I grew up with a stigma from a very traditional way of thinking—not from my parents, my parents were wonderful, they’re very encouraging as they always are.
David Laroche: It was the culture?
Grace Daly: The culture, yes. I mean, that’s why in China all the orphans are all baby girls. So I think having grown up with that, for me to get over it, I’ve actually gone the way other degree and had a good amount of successes in retail development, which was at one point a very male-dominated industry. So that really kind of propels me.
So what I perceived as maybe a struggle or challenge, actually propelled me to go beyond that. Does that make sense?
David Laroche: Yes. How did you do it?
Grace Daly: How did I do it? So, also to further the story, being the fifth youngest of six children firstborn here in New York, I grew up a little two-bedroom apartment in China Town, Lower East Side. I always see my parents struggle. You know, my dad worked late hours on a restaurant business. He was electrician by train, but when he came to this country, he worked very hard in the restaurant business because he didn’t speak the English language. And my mother, who wasn’t working back in Hong Kong, here she worked in the factories, in the seamstress factories. Nowadays, a lot of those jobs are outsourced to other countries.
So I grew up watching my parents work so hard. And being the fifth of six children, I just figured, David, by time they got to me, there’s not going to be more money left. Let me just take care of myself! So I’ve always had this innate drive to always—whatever it is, pay for my own braces when I was like 18, or buy my own first used car or my house or whatever it is—I’ve always been very driven to just kind of take care of myself and wanting to take care of other people because I figured my parents, they’ve got the other 5 kids to worry about. And all my siblings are doing great, but do you know what I mean? I think growing up with that perception has actually helped me propel me.
David Laroche: Do you think people who don’t have the same backgrounds and you can do the same?
Grace Daly: Absolutely, without a doubt. Actually, one of the keynotes that I do when I mentor and I also speak to empowering women is that I’ve had a lot of success in my corporate America years in the last 20 years before my entrepreneurial in retail construction, design and facility management. I say that to really share with you that I don’t have formal education in it. I’ve asked a lot of questions and I’ve learned a lot from the industry and I’ve had wonderful mentors.
So if I can do it, if I can have that amount of success in such a niche industry without having formal education, anyone can do it. It’s limitless, it’s boundless. Whatever it is that you want to do to accomplish, it’s really boundless.
David Laroche: I think so.
I have another question. What do you want to say for women? Maybe there are women who are following us now. What life lesson or what advice you want to tell them?
Grace Daly: I’ve worked with a lot of women. Some women come from countless backgrounds, some women are single moms, some of them are working moms… you have more strength than you recognize. You just need to have that belief in yourself and also value yourself, love yourself. You need to love yourself more than anyone in the world—more than your husband or your boyfriend, or your mom or your dad. You need to love yourself first, and when you love yourself first, everything else is going to fall in place.
David Laroche: What can we do to love ourselves?
Grace Daly: I think what happens is that I think women are natural caretakers and nurturers, so we’re always doing for other people—whether it’s our children or our aging parents or our friends or our family. Take time to take care of yourself first, whatever that may be. I encourage always some sort of self-development and learning, going on a retreat or going to a seminar, expand your network and meet more people in the area or the business that you want to be in or you want to continue growing. Be boisterous.
I think sometimes a lot of the women professionals I’ve coached and worked with, they don’t feel comfortable being boisterous. You have to have that belief and that value in yourself that what you say matters.
David Laroche: I have a short question to ask you. It is a short question, short answer.
Grace Daly: I’ll try to do a short answer!
David Laroche: It’s easy. What is your favorite quote?
Grace Daly: Wow! My favorite quote? I believe is by Helen Keller and it goes, “Life is an adventure or nothing at all.”
David Laroche: Good! What is your favorite book?
Grace Daly: My favorite book of all times? “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success” by Deepak Chopra.
David Laroche: Who is your favorite mentor? It’s hard, I know.
Grace Daly: My favorite mentor?
David Laroche: Maybe the first one?
Grace Daly: Well, the first one was Deepak Chopra, you know, reading his books and listening to his audio CD’s and just really kind of being immersed in that philosophy and the way of thinking.
David Laroche: What is the thing you learned from him? If you can get only one advice from him…
Grace Daly: I think kindness and compassion. Kindness, compassion and abundance. OK, that’s three!
David Laroche: It’s OK. What’s your favorite music?
Grace Daly: I like all kinds of music. It’s really mixed up. I like a lot of New Age music; I like a lot of lounge and chill music.
David Laroche: What’s your favorite decision you’ve made, you took in your past?
Grace Daly: Was to go out on my own and be an entrepreneur.
David Laroche: Good!
Grace Daly: I know! That’s a good thing! No regrets there!
David Laroche: I have a last question for you. It is an inverse question. My goal in doing this question is to touch people differently because there are a lot, a lot of other videos in success and happiness, and I would like to touch people in inverse in the way we teach. So my question will be it goes, part of it goes will be how to become a loser? How to become an average person?
I will make a video with the best keys of each expert to fail and how to become a loser. It’s a funny video but I know I will touch people who are not touched with the other video because it will describe what they do!
Grace Daly: Yes, OK.
David Laroche: Are you ready?
Grace Daly: Yes. How to be a loser? Like how many ways do you want to know on how to be a loser? Oh, you will ask me a question?
David Laroche: Yes.
Grace Daly: OK. So this is in reverse?
David Laroche: Yes, in reverse. You do what’s…
Grace Daly: What’s opposite of what I would normally do.
David Laroche: Yes, exactly. You can say that seriously or not seriously, they will understand it’s inverse. It works.
Grace Daly: All right! That sounds like fun!
David Laroche: So, you know, Grace, I’m used to ask a question. It’s very important for me because I would like to help people to be a loser, I would like to help them to fail and to…
Grace Daly: I’m sorry, what were you saying? Something about failing and loser?
David Laroche: How to become a loser?
Grace Daly: Yes. How to be a loser? OK, well, to be a loser you would be a bad listener. You wouldn’t be interested in other people. You want to do other things and let your mind wander and not give people your full undivided attention, stuff like that.
David Laroche: “Don’t pay attention to others,” is your first key?
Grace Daly: Yes. Another one would be to complain about something every day.
David Laroche: Complain? OK.
Grace Daly: Not every day, every hour. Find something to complain about. Don’t be grateful because you can't be a loser and be grateful. You have to find something to complain about. Whatever it is, you know? The rain, your shoes, anything, just find something to complain about every hour—at least every hour. And the more you do it within the hour, the bigger the loser you are. So that’s good.
David Laroche: Thank you very much. Do you have a third key, please, I would like to help people to become top-level losers, because average loser is not interesting.
Grace Daly: OK. And then, you know what? Be mean to people. Never say, “Please,” never say, “Thank you,” never offer to help anyone. Just be mean. Try to be mean.
David Laroche: Just focus on you only.
Grace Daly: Yes! Be self-serving and be mean. Damn right mean! Like don’t smile.
David Laroche: Don’t smile.
Grace Daly: Don’t smile, just be like scour.
David Laroche: So you are sure that if I don’t smile, if I don’t pay attention to people and if I—sorry, it’s very important to remember your…
Grace Daly: If you don’t listen, yes. If you’re rude and if you complain. Complain is a big one.
David Laroche: And if you do that you are sure I will become a loser?
Grace Daly: Yes. The biggest loser is this, on top of the icing of the cake is this: sleep in, sleep as much as you can. Try to sleep 22 hours a day. Don’t get up for anything, maybe get up and like eat something. Try to sleep away your life and sleep as much as you can.
David Laroche: It’s great! Thank you very much.
Grace Daly: You’re so welcome. This was a lot of fun!
David Laroche: My last question for you it is…
Grace Daly: This is a serious question? Not a loser question? OK.
David Laroche: Do you have some life lessons you want to share with us?
Grace Daly: Life lessons… I think that everything that comes across your path, don’t label it, don’t label it as “good”, “bad”, just don’t label it. We tend to want to label things all the time. I think that whatever comes across your way embrace it, put your mark on it, touch it, love it and leave it better, leave that person, place, company, environment, whatever it is, leave it better than when you found it.
David Laroche: And what do you think about purpose?
Grace Daly: I’m sorry?
David Laroche: What do you think about the purpose of each individual?
Grace Daly: I believe that everyone that comes to your life, whether it’s 5 seconds at a bank teller transaction, or it’s 5 hours or it’s 5 years or it’s 50 years, everyone that comes across your life has purpose and has meaning. However you can help them along your path, they will help you back or you’ll get that same help from another source. It’s just kind of reciprocal.
David Laroche: And just before we were talking about if I have a greater purpose. Can you explain more what you think about that, to have a greater purpose?
Grace Daly: Absolutely. I think there’s a huge movement going on, especially in the last couple of years, where people are starting to awaken to a greater purpose, to a greater goal than just themselves. And I think when you awaken to a greater purpose and goal you can never go back to just focusing on yourself because what happens is, I believe too, when you attach your goals to a greater purpose, then you’re also aligning yourself with these wonderful universal energies providence that comes your way to help you and to help you not only get your message out, but to help you help other people. Because that’s really our purpose here, it’s really just to help each other.
Everything, whatever it is, whatever we own, whatever we have, whatever possessions, it’s fine, it’s great. Who doesn’t want fun stuff? Who doesn’t want that nice car? Who doesn’t want that nice house? And that’s fine. But when there’s a greater goal than just gathering material, you’ve come to this energy flow where you’re really recognizing that we’re here just to help each other along our path.
David Laroche: Great! Thank you very much.
Grace Daly: Thank you.
David Laroche: About your greater purpose, do you think you can find it before you find your on purpose?
Grace Daly: I think it depends on what your innate passions are. So many people are so busy just doing the day to day they don’t even take time out for themselves. So many people don’t live their dreams. I believe that if God gave you a dream and a goal and a vision that is your purpose to carry through and carry out and that will be aligned to a greater goal and a greater purpose.
David Laroche: Yes. Thank you very much for all these answers.
Grace Daly: Thank you.
David Laroche: Julie will ask you two questions about education in this world and I will ask you a last question, a short question with the camcorder.
Grace Daly: OK.
So I try to start the question on how to spread peace in the world, how to make this world a better place to live. I would like to ask you a question related to that, which is lets imagine a community of just 6 people who are average people with ups and downs but they all have the will to build a community in peace for their children, for their next generations.
How should they do to build peace between themselves and live in harmony altogether?
Grace Daly: OK, I think the first step is that they have to have peace within themselves first. It’s very similar to the Buddhist philosophy, which is that if you have your peace within then it transcends to your family and it transcends to your community, then it transcends to the state, to the country, to the world.
So ultimately it starts from within. And the way to do that is to really know yourself very well and be very comfortable with yourself that whatever is happening around you, you always have your center of peace. You’re not distracted, you’re not worried about what someone is thinking about you, what someone is saying about you. You’re very firm in your conviction and your beliefs that you have your own inner peace. And when you operate from your own inner peace, then it just transcends out, but it always begins from within.
Julie: It’s great. Do you have tips to develop inner peace for people?
Grace Daly: Sure! Some of the tips are, again, know yourself very well. Know yourself very well and then after you know yourself, your strengths, your weaknesses, your good, your bad, whatever it is, love yourself, be kind to yourself. I think people can be very hard on themselves. I don’t think they love themselves enough or sometimes they seek love from other people or from external, but you have to develop that love from within and that’s your core strength, that’s core well of strength when you have that love within.
From there, and again, very important, love yourself, good, bad, ugly, indifferent, whatever, just love everything about yourself. And then, from there, when you’re at peace like that, you can transcend the peace to others.
Julie: Yes, you can be a mother and your children are the community.
Grace Daly: Yes, absolutely.
Julie: Thank you.
Grace Daly: You’re welcome.
Julie: And the second question is about education. Let’s say those people want to build a school for the children and their generation. What should the school teach to the children? What’s important for children to learn to keep this community to being constructive?
Grace Daly: I think what—and part of that is for technology and all this technology advances, with all the social media, Facebook, Twitter, so on and so forth—I don’t think the younger generation knows how to sit down an have a conversation. They don’t even call each other on the phone to hear each other’s voice. A lot of it is texting, a lot of it is these quick little 140-characters, whatever.
That’s not a world. That’s not encouraging communication, true dialogue. I think schools should really teach more of the one-on-one, face-to-face conversing. That’s very important because there then you establish empathy, you have a connection.
When you’re on your smartphone, or you’re on social media, I mean, that has its purpose, but it shouldn’t be in place of the face-to-face communication.
Julie: Yes, I see. So you think that they should teach communication and empathy.
Grace Daly: Yes. Empathy and compassion it’s huge. It’s unfortunate, but we hear so much about children that are bullied. Now, unlike when I was younger—that’s a long time ago—you won't get bullied or whatever. It is what it is. Now, there’s viral bullying going on and there’s a lot—it’s sad—there are a lot of cases where people have taken their own lives because the were under so much stress and pressure from that.
So I think, understanding the compassion and the empathy component is very important, and the communication component is very important because now we live in a society where technology all it is, is just a fast conduit. It’s a fast conduit and it’s emotionless.
Julie: We have communication but less sharing.
Grace Daly: Yes, less face-to-face sharing.
Julie: That’s great. Thank you!
Grace Daly: You’re welcome.
Julie: I just have a last question. It’s the first time I ask this question. It’s about women in the world. What do you think is the place of women in the world? Do you have an idea about that? What are the roles of women? Because, to me, I think there is a male energy to—how to say it—too big in comparison with women energy and I think women energy needs to take more place in the world. It’s just to see what you think about the role of women in the society. Should it be changed or…?
Grace Daly: I think, obviously, the role of the women has evolved tremendously every decade. And a lot of that is also with technology, because now we have a lot of women entrepreneurs, we have people working, are able to launch businesses as opposed to having an office per se. A lot of people have more flexibility instead of having a brick and mortar location that would have more overhead.
So I think as women continue to evolve in the business world, we’re going to have a stronger voice, but also too then there’s another dynamic. You hear more of men that are staying at home and women are becoming the breadwinners. That’s not uncommon now.
I just think that we’re going to go to continue to evolve, so there’s a fine balance between of course being very successful in business, but then also to balancing your family life as well too. So there’s that fine line.
Julie: Thank you!
Grace Daly: You’re welcome.
David Laroche: Last question.
Grace Daly: OK, one more! Back to David.
David Laroche: I have to change the battery. We will return with that.
Grace Daly: I really liked that question on how to be a loser. That’s fun! I do a lot of interviews actually and I may use that. I’ll give you credit for that. I love that! That’s a lot of fun.
David Laroche: You can use it if you want.
Grace Daly: Now, what city are you going to next after this?
Grace Daly: What city are you going?
Grace Daly: Chicago.
Julie: On Monday.
Grace Daly: OK.
Julie: Monday to Wednesday.
Grace Daly: I’m in Chicago Friday to Tuesday night.
Julie: We arrive on Monday morning, then we will go to meet a woman, we’ll eat with her and do the interview. And then in the afternoon we are free.
Grace Daly: Let me know if you want to meet my boyfriend. He’s an entrepreneur in advertising and marketing. He’s a lot of fun. You guys will probably like him too.
David Laroche: Can you come just a little? Just a little bit. Perfect.
Are you ready?
Grace Daly: Yes, I’m ready.
David Laroche: You have maybe between 30 seconds to 1 minute.
Grace Daly: OK, no long answers!
David Laroche: It’s OK, you can speak and I will cut.
Grace Daly: Yes. You’ll probably need to edit it for sure.
David Laroche: So, according to you, what could be the key to success? You look at the camcorder.
Grace Daly: OK. Well, the key to success is just to realize your inner strength and always operate out of abundance and… I’m sorry! Let’s do it over. Compassion was the other one! Sorry.
David Laroche: Yes, take your time.
Grace Daly: One more time.
David Laroche: So, what could be the keys to success?
Grace Daly: My keys to success are always operate out of compassion and abundance to realize your own inner strength, a very deep well of strength that we all have within and also to understand a greater good and greater purpose to align your goals with. Those are the keys to success.
David Laroche: Cool. So, what advice would you give to live a life of fulfillment?
Grace Daly: I think to live a life of fulfillment your intentions, your personal core values have to match your actions. There are so many people where they want to do something else, where they feel unfulfilled but their actions continue to work against that.
So for instance, if someone’s not happy at their job, they will stay there instead of leaving and find a new job. So your core values have to always be in sync with your actions, they have to match up.
David Laroche: Thank you.
Grace Daly: You’re welcome.
David Laroche: My last question is what we have to do to start any change in your life? If they want to start something, to start to become successful or to become happy, what’s the first action we could do now?
Grace Daly: Right now?
David Laroche: Yes, right now or tomorrow maximum.
Grace Daly: I think once you know what you want in your life—that’s huge because a lot of people don’t know what they want—once they know the kind of life you want to live and the goals you want to accomplish, I think it’s very important to share that. Most people don’t share that and what happens it is a secret. And when it’s a secret, they don’t have to take action because no one knows about it.
So as soon as you share it, whether it is with a family member, a mentor or a friend, you have to take action. So there’s kind of like you’re setting up an accountability team.
David Laroche: My last question…
Grace Daly: You keep saying that!
David Laroche: My last question is, according to you, how to build a better world?
Grace Daly: You build a better self first, and then the better world will come.
David Laroche: A little bit longer. What we could do to build a better world?
Grace Daly: I think it’s important to build a better self first before you can build a better world. What I mean by building a better self is that you just make yourself the best you can make, whether it’s in work, career, family, whatever it is, it’s all relationships you build the best of yourself first and then everything else transcends from there. Everyone is focused on themselves and not other people or what other people thought of them, then it would be a better world because you’re transcending out from what you’re already instilling in yourself.
David Laroche: Great! Thank you very much.
Grace Daly: You’re so welcome. You’re going to have to do a lot of editing, sorry. That’s a lot of work!
David Laroche: I was just thinking about something. It’s for you. If you want to do a last video for you, or anything, we can do it.
Grace Daly: No, it’s OK. You guys covered a lot. That’s fine. I trust that you guys will edit it and do what you need to do.
David Laroche: Because I have the material and you are here, if there is a light, if you want to do a video to introduce yourself for your blog or your website we could do that and I send you the final.
Grace Daly: I appreciate it. No, that’s OK. I’m good. Thank you very much. I’m totally good.
Did you kids eat yet? Do you have dinner plans?
David Laroche: Tonight? No.
Oh, lastly, can you do…?
Grace Daly: A recommendation? Yes, of course. For sure. Wait, how do I say your last name?
David Laroche: Laroche.
Grace Daly: Laroche.
David Laroche: In French we say “Laroche”, but every other you can say “Laroche”. It’s David Laroche.
Grace Daly: David Laroche. And you’re France’s youngest motivational speaker.
David Laroche: Yes.
Grace Daly: OK. All right.
David Laroche: Say what you have in the heart.
Grace Daly: OK. You edit whatever you like. I’m going to rumble, you edit, whatever you like.
David Laroche: Yes.
Grace Daly: Hey, hi, I’m Grace Daly. I’m so excited to have spent some time with David Laroche, the… Sorry! See, this is horrible!
David Laroche: Yes, you can start again. Perfect.
Grace Daly: OK, we’ll start again.
Hi, I’m Grace Daly and I’m so excited to have spent time with David Laroche, France’s youngest motivational speaker. He’s got some incredible insightful questions that get all of us thinking. If you have a moment to spend with him, whether it’s for interview, chat or whatever you can do to help him with his project, to spread more inspiration, by all means definitely contact him. I highly recommend David Laroche.
David Laroche: Thank you very much.